Although Blake Shelton always puts on a smile for his audience, his ex-wife Michelle Lambert opens up about how he is not the man he appears to be on television. It’s no secret that the couple, who were once one of country music’s cutest, had many fans who were devastated when the news broke that they were breaking up. Although Shelton moved on and quickly found new love with former No Doubt singer Gwen Stefani, Michelle Lambert was left behind to pick up the pieces and repair the life that Shelton had shattered into a million pieces.

Lambert is now comfortable opening up about how life following her divorce from Shelton has been a “really hard time.” Although things were great for most of their four years of marriage, things soured as the couple started blaming each other for problems and fighting all the time. You’ve never seen Shelton rage like he did with Lambert.

People close to both Lambert and Shelton pointed to Blake’s relationship with Gwen Stefani as part of the reason that the divorce did not go so well. Although Shelton insisted that he would not pursue anything until his divorce was finalized, it is believed that he may have broken that promise to his ex-wife in exchange for a hot, new romance that millions of people were watching on television. It was also good for his career.

During a concert in Nashville, Lambert started to talk about his bitter divorce from Shelton. She decided to reveal the truth during her Nashville concert because the city has meant a lot to her and her career over the years. But it has also been the site of some of the biggest struggles she’s faced.

Lambert and Shelton officially divorced in 2015 following four years of marriage. Since their split, both country stars have moved on with their own lives. Shelton has fallen head over heels in love with Gwen Stefani, which has sparked a lot of rumors that they will marry very soon. And Shelton has managed to avoid the topic of his divorce with Lambert. Isn’t that the way it frequently is with men? They just seem to be able to get over a failed relationship faster while the woman is left to pick up the pieces and fix things.

However, Lambert was able to find new romance herself. She’s been dating around. For two years, she had a fling with Anderson East. Then she found lasting love with New York City police officer Brendan McLoughlin. She married the cop last year following their whirlwind romance.

Compared to Blake Shelton, Lambert has been outspoken and honest about their divorce. She began by making some innocuous politically-correct comments about their relationship. But quickly got down to telling it like it really was.

“I had a great relationship with an amazing man, so I know what good is,” she said to Cosmopolitan back in 2015.

She added, “I will never take that for granted. Some of that might mean nights on my porch crying, drinking whiskey, and going, ‘Man, this sucks right now.’”

At least she’s able to face her feelings head-on with courage.

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